Moving in with your significant other is a huge deal and often times, people say it’s a bigger lifestyle adjustment than getting married!
We asked Nikki for her honest take on what it was really like to move in with her boyfriend last year. Read on for her answers and let us know in the comments if you have any more questions for her!
How important do you think it is to test out cohabiting before moving in together?
All relationships are different. For us, it was super important to spend quality time together before we moved in. We made it a priority to take trips that allowed us to learn even more about one another and adapt to each other’s way of life. Funny enough, we are almost two years into dating and one year into living together and STILL continue to find new things out about each other everyday.
How did you go about discussing budgeting and rent with your significant other?
There are so many factors to be considered when moving in together, like knowing you’ll have to have real conversations about budget. For us, it was important that we were both contributing a fair share while also respecting the other’s restrictions. We based budgeting/rent on what we were paying prior to moving in together and what we both felt comfortable with. It was an easy conversation and we were definitely aligned on how to make it work. We created a master Google sheet to keep track of everything that was being spent to keep ourselves within the budget that we originally set.
How do you know that you’re ready and not rushing into things?
Our timelines aligned and we felt it was right. We moved in after a year of dating, both of our leases were up and we were practically living together already, so we figured why not?!
How did you go about decorating?
This was tough – we both cared about the decor and had to find a way to respect the other’s style and choices. We ended up keeping things very neutral (greys, beiges and whites) and Corey let me throw in some funkier accessories to add in pops of color.
What are some challenges you’ve experienced? And what are your best tips for compromising?
I think the hardest part about living together is that you’re in the mindset of always seeing each other, but not necessarily carving out quality time. Corey and I try to set aside one night a week where we can have dinner and really focus on one another. In addition to this, I think just always try to understand your significant other’s point of view. I’m a super stubborn person and learned that this was something I needed to work on to be in a serious relationship. Luckily, Corey is the most patient and loved me regardless, but it’s not always your way or the highway in a relationship.