Being a full time mom and also having a full time job is a blessing and a curse. I feel like there are some days where I just feel so guilty for focusing on my work and then days where I’m with Ruby and feel so guilty about not working at all. Finding a balance as a mother is a day by day thing – I don’t believe there is one rule of thumb on how to find that balance. I take each day as it comes and learn. With my new baby coming in only 10 weeks, I knew it was time to make some changes. I decided to get an office. With my clothing line launching and the expansion of my team – I wanted a place for everyone to go and be able to focus on their jobs, including myself. Even if I can get myself there for a couple hours a day and then come home and be a mother – I feel I’d do a better job at both this way.
Ruby is at an age now where she is super attached to me while I’m home. She doesn’t like me being in any room that she isn’t in and if it’s my office she will find toys out of office supplies and ways to stay close to me at all times (which by the way is so not a complaint it’s seriously my favorite thing ever but definitely doesn’t make it easy for me to get things done).
When I’ve taken photos the last few weeks with my photographer, Ruby immediately screams “take pictures with tawni!!” – she loves being apart of it all of a sudden which kind of is a perk for me because now I have all these amazing professional photos of me and my baby girl all dressed up. I’ve started to notice that in some way incorporating her in to my every day (including my work) has been a positive experience and maybe that’s what I will continue to do as long as she asks for it. It also will go hand in hand with a new baby. I’m wondering if she’ll want to be apart of a lot of that as well, like feeding her, bathing her, changing her diapers, etc. These are just some ideas but love chatting with other moms to hear what worked for them!
I’d love to hear from some other mamas out there about how you find your balance and how some of your transitions were into welcoming a second child!
Photography by Tawni Bannister.