First comes love, then comes marriage? For some, maybe. But for others, *then comes moving into together!
Living with your significant other is a significant decision, even if you’re spending almost every night together already. In my case, my husband and I had been dating for 4 years before we moved in together. To be honest, I was ready one year earlier but he wasn’t ready to “uncommit” to his frat style apartment where he resided with 4 friends. So, finally our moment came in June of 2016. Our moment when we made the plunge to not only be roommates, but to live together in a NYC studio apartment. We knew if we could make it there, we could make it anywhere! As we are now happily married, I am here to divulge a few tips on how to ensure your partnership thrives once you make the big step to share a not-so-big New York City apartment.
- Don’t move in because it’s convenient. Be patient with your relationship and make the decision once you both feel ready.
- If it’s something you both care about, be collaborative in the decision process. Even if it’s letting him choose just a few pieces 😊.
- Look for decorative furniture that doubles as storage! For example, when we lived in our studio, the divider which separated our “bedroom” and “living room” was a cute wall of drawers. Do not underestimate the value of organization in your life independently and as a couple.
- Keep wine in the fridge.
- Always include his order in your coffee run (or when you brew at home).
- Find shows you enjoy watching together.
- An obvious one: take turns with all things cleaning – dishes, laundry, tidying up. The “she cooks, he cleans” tradition is very effective. Often in our apartment it’s vice-versa!
- Bring home flowers and keep them alive.
- Make the bed every morning.
These pieces of advice may not be wildly groundbreaking, but they are small initiatives that will help your love and roommate lives co-exist. Committing to live together is such a special time, some may think a leap of faith. As long as you compromise and learn what is important to him, you’ll be on your way to the next big step in your relationship.
Should I write an article elaborating on how I got him to move in with me?
Illustration by: Sydney Mastrandrea