I asked Brandon all about our relationship, starting from when we were dating to how he felt the night before we got married. His answers are, well, they’re so Brandon!
Arielle: How did you feel when I first told you I loved you… and you didn’t say it back?
Brandon: I was nervous. I was nervous that this is it – this is a big commitment. I’m a very loyal person and I was scared that this was it. And it was it.
Arielle: How did you really feel when we officially moved in together?
Brandon: I prefer to be with someone all the time. Arielle was very easy and clean and neat, so it was nice. And it was like I also got a housekeeper.
Arielle: How did you feel when I built a shoe wall in front of your bed?
Brandon: I’m not like that. Honestly, I could live with no furniture or a fully furnished house I wouldn’t even notice. I didn’t even notice your shoe wall, I had no idea it was even there – it’s just the way I am.
Arielle: How did you feel when I told you I was ready for the next step and to get engaged?
Brandon: I was like it’s just another thing. I think in my head I was like I need to be able to provide a life for this person and I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my career – I was insecure because I didn’t think or know if I was going to be able to provide for you and our future. I was just so nervous about how I was going to be able to support you. It was the only thing I could focus on when we talked about getting engaged.
Arielle: How did you feel the night before you were going to propose to me?
Brandon: In my head, I felt like I already proposed. I wasn’t nervous at all. I just love making you happy I was just so excited to surprise you. If Arielle’s happy, I’m happy.
Arielle: How did you feel the night before you married me?
Brandon: It’s the same thing, I was already married in my mind. We were soulmates from the beginning. We were together, a team, we were never going to fuck this up. I felt married the second I knew I loved her and she loved me. We are a team.
Arielle: Going into the relationship did you think this was going to be serious or did you think of it as just a fling?
Brandon: I think I thought of it not as a fling, but I still wanted to be able to have fun. I still wanted to go do immature things with my friends. Not necessarily to hook up with other girls but I still wanted my freedom and to play the field. I wasn’t looking for another girl because I just didn’t want to be locked down yet. I wanted to still flirt with people and do what I wanted but go back to Arielle in the end. I didn’t want to not be able to go out with my friends and constantly worry about upsetting a girl I cared about.
Arielle: What made you realize that you didn’t want to see anyone else? (Click here for Why I Believe This Relationship Worked)
Brandon: You! My connection with you, that’s it.
Arielle: In prior relationships, were you scared of commitment? Did you ever think about commitment?
Brandon: No. Never.
Arielle: Do guys talk about it with friends or ask for advice on how to lock a girl down?
Brandon: Yes, 100%. We talk a lot about getting the girl and also how to break up with her, if that’s what the situation calls for. So the in and the out is what guys talk about. With my friends, we never speak about anything in between.
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