We searched for the top relationship questions on Google and asked Arielle to give her advice. Here is what she said:
Question: What does a healthy relationship look like?
Arielle: I think a healthy relationship involves a lot of communication and respect. Brandon and I try to talk as much as possible. Even if i’m being annoying and I have a question that is so out of control, I still ask anyway. I want to always be open and honest and share my feelings. I think same goes for him. We also both have a lot of respect for each other, we always think about each other before we do pretty much anything.
Question: How do you get out of a toxic relationship?
Arielle: It’s not easy. It’s always easier said than done, especially when friends and loved ones try to push you into ending something. You have to want to make the change for yourself. I think the best way to go about it is be completely honest with yourself and the person and surround yourself by super supportive people, like your family and friends. Know that everything happens for a reason and what’s meant to be will be. You deserve the best and should never feel like anyone is treating you anything less than that and if that’s the case, you need to leave the relationship. There is such thing as an amazing relationship and it all comes down to love and respect.
Question: How do you get over a relationship?
Arielle: FRIENDS!!! I can’t stress enough how much friends and family helped me move on from my bad relationship. In my situation, finding myself and a hobby was the biggest help. I ended up being obsessed with my hobby and put all of my energy into it, which is now my brand today. Finding something to do, starting a business, going full force with your current job, or school or whatever it may be and putting your focus into something else is the best move. Going out with friends and spending time with family keeps you occupied as well. Some wine doesn’t hurt either. 😉
Question: Why is he not calling me back?
Arielle: If he’s not calling you back, it’s time to move on. Guys can be idiots unfortunately and they don’t always realize what they have right in front of them. Until they do though, you shouldn’t be stressing or waiting around. Again, making sure your main focus is on a hobby or a passion or your career is always ideal because at the end of the day, you are your person. You need to feel happy with yourself before being with anyone else. If he’s not calling you back, I wouldn’t reach out – I would just go on with my life the best way I could.
Question: Why is he treating me differently in front of his friends?
Arielle: He’s immature. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel the way about you that he says he does or normally shows he does, it just means his friends aren’t in the same place as he is and he doesn’t want to be the guy that does something different first. Guys like to follow the crew. Brandon was that guy – he was the first one to have a girlfriend and get engaged and get married. It took him a while to feel strong enough to make that move/leap because his friends were nowhere near that yet.
Question: What is a normal amount to have sex a week after being in a relationship for 2 years or more?
Arielle: I think it’s a super personal choice and every single person is different, circumstances are different but I would say to try and go for twice a week. I think it’s important to always make the effort to maintain that part of the relationship. It’s good for you!
Question: How long do I wait for him to text back before moving on?
Arielle: A day! If he’s not texting you back within the day then I’m not into that!
Question: How many dates before we’re exclusive?
Arielle: Brandon and I dated for about 3 ½ months until we decided to be exclusive. I would have been ready to be exclusive right off the bat but some guys are different.
Question: How to turn The Friendzone into something more?
Arielle: Be open and honest. Is this something you’re both feeling but not talking about? It’s okay to be the first one to bring it up in conversation. If you don’t ask you’ll never know!
Illustration by: Paige Griffiths